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This whole dating thing...

Well, it hasn't been easy.  CJ and I still talk and see each other on occasion, its been a little over a year that we have known each other. We really enjoy each other's company.  There is no future of a relationship for us, we are clear on that.  I started seeing someone else who I had known for 4.5 years before we started flirting with each other and eventually dating.  We did the off and on thing for a about 10 months and I just couldn't continue on that emotional roller coaster with someone who wasn't sure he wanted to be in a relationship.  I am an all or nothing kind of woman.  I don't want to play ridiculous childish games.  I am happy to report that I have been able to maintain friendships with these two men.  They were both important in my life and there are no hard feelings between us.

I have been off that dating site for about 10 months now and have maintained friendships with some of the guys I met.  Especially one in particular, Brian (not to be confused with the crazy psycho Brian).  He has stood by as a friend this entire time and has been a great friend to me.  He is an amazing guy and has shown an interest in me.  I asked him one day why he waited around this whole time and he said in hopes that I would finally come around.  I had someone right there under my nose the whole time who is the kind of amazing that I have been looking for but couldn't see past the two I had been dealing with.

He knows everything I have been through and everything that I am currently going through.  He has been supportive, caring, and shown genuine concern for me.  Again, I asked him why this does not deter him.  His response "Forrest through the trees".  He focuses on the big picture, looking past all the small details.  He and I have maintained a friendship through text, phone, FaceTime and Facebook and have really gotten to know one another.  I really enjoy our conversations and hearing his perspective on the things we discuss.  Nothing can ever be perfect, there are many miles between us but it is doable. In the very near future we are planning a date.  I'm excited but nervous at the same time.  Stay tuned for the outcome...

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